Uitspraak
Internationale kinderontvoering
Beschikking op het op 5 december 2017 ingekomen verzoek van:
[minderjarige 2] SCHMID ,
[minderjarige 3] SWAGERMAN ,
Procedure
- het verzoekschrift;
- het verweerschrift;
- de brieven van 9 en 10 januari 2018, met bijlagen, van de zijde van de moeder;
- de F4-formulieren van 22 en 31 januari 2018 van de zijde van de moeder;
Verzoek en verweer
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Beoordeling
Hello my love, love of my life. I want to say thank you for our conversation earlier. It brought me a lot more peace and I am really happy to in this order 1. Rent in [plaatsnaam] 2.Find an apartment in [plaatsnaam] 3. Buy a suitable place in [plaatsnaam] /../.. This to me is a great solution and gives me also time to make up my mind about a base. I don’t want to disqualify Switzerland before I felt I properly tried it. So I’m on it my love. Promised. As I said, i just don’t want to be without you nor share you, i want to be a winning team and love you to the moon and back, at any corner of life.”
22. May [naam] arrives
23. May first day of school
24. May move to apartment
24. June – 08. July [minderjarige 1] and [minderjarige 2] in ibiza and [minderjarige 3] comes for as much as possible
08. July [minderjarige 3] and [minderjarige 1] ‘move to parents’
Until end of July/beginning of August.
28 sept-6 october [naam] with [minderjarige 1] in Switzerland
31. Oct end of contract.
Now we are here, and you have asked me for a compromise that works for me.
1. When it was all so bad with [naam] , you spoke and thought about - and strongly considered starting for yourself, your own company. We talked about it many times, you were many times on the verge of quitting [naam] , it was a serious option and you had the outlines of a plan into place. Then it went a little better and you decided to stick with [naam] . It means you were open to hand in a little of your earnings, to take a step back for maybe a few years and to then be independent. So here we go - bluntly outlined, for me a fair compromise would be for me to give up on TUI (think: dream job: B787 Dreamliner (the aircraft of the future), career opportunity, potential office job and guaranteed parttime contract, base Amsterdam but due to long haul schedule able to divide my time living in two places) - (and if I say no to them after the selection process, the door will be forever closed so it is properly giving up on TUI), and you would give up - not your job with [naam] per se -, but at least your current role which eats up so much of your time and energy and binds you to Switzerland, and we start somewhere else (anywhere, London, Singapore, New York, San Francisco, Paris, whatever) at equal positions, but together. It would mean we both choose for each other and therefor the family over work (which is just work), and we both make the same sacrifices and we can be convinced of the genuinity of the love and dedication for each other and for our family.
2. I have compared the “useful family time’ of a [bedrijfsnaam] A320 pilot in summer (and winter) to a ‘fulltime’ B787 pilot for TUI, spread between two homes in NL and CH. Effectively this means 100 flying hours a month between June and October for [bedrijfsnaam] , meaning being from away from home at least 5 days a week long days on weird times (almost zero quality time family wise) from home in [plaatsnaam] and factually fully (from May/June - end of October) away from home in Switzerland, and having to leave Switzerland in winter for x days in a row as well to Netherlands.
While I kept the same job ever since you met me with the same company and everything that comes along with it comes along with it, you have just recently decided to start flying again under the agreement (we both had!) that it will be temporary until end of October and for you to return back to Switzerland and increase your job to either fly for [1. bedrijfsnaam] Under this assumption I have agreed on it, despite all difficulties of traveling logistics and especially not often seeing [minderjarige 1] and you for 5 months!! How can you say you are not willing to give up your regained position when we agreed that it was only temporary. In fact it is you that makes a decision to change what we have agreed on and it’s all in you hands if you want to push it through and get a fix position out of [plaatsnaam] – not me! You seem to forget that by supporting your current job at [1. bedrijfsnaam] I have already made a compromise. It’s just not clear to me why you don’t see this...”
I am super excited to go to Mykonos baby! It will be so nice to be away the three of us…and then it will be already almost October and this hectic period over!”