4.10.De beschuldiging dat [eiser] zich aan seksueel grensoverschrijdend gedrag heeft schuldig gemaakt is gebaseerd op een tweetal e-mails. De inhoud daarvan luidt als volgt.
(1)
(…)
I’d like to report to you and request your answer regarding an extremely unpleasant experience at [plaats 2] golf course this morning (8:57 tee off, Blue, Monday May 31, 2021).
I started to play with my friend, … but a gentleman called ARD (not sure about the spelling of his name) joined blind in my group at the tee box.
It was ok at the beginning since he showed a gentle gesture as a normal golfer.
However, he started disturbing me with his words “teaching golf” next to me to touch my shoulder and talked to me words including “kiss my cheek, kiss me” a few times.
He finally grabbed the waist of my friend on the way walking up the hill after the 7th hole an my friend was really, really upset to yell “Don’t touch me!”.
There must be a cultural difference between Korea and the Netherlands, so Asians like Koreans may not look direct and strong enough for Europeans to stop him immediately at the beginning.
However, his behaviour is not acceptable in any case in a civilized country.
My friend and I felt crushed, offended, sexually harassed and racially discriminated against Asians, so we had no choice but to stop playing golf after the 9th hole although we booked the whole 18 holes today.
Now, before taking my action, I’d like to ask you what is the official position of Burggolf on this matter.
I need to hear an answer from you because you are responsible for protecting members in your golf course. (…)
(2)
This is (…) who is one of the representatives (…) memberships in Burggolf.
Today, I got a complaint related wit suspicious “sexual harassment” from the male player of [plaats 2] .
2 members (…) played 08:57 at [plaats 2] .
And there was one more male joined 9 hole game. (he introduced his name as A.D.)
During the game, I heard that he touched … explaining that he wanted to support the pulling of trolley at hill.
… didn’t like that action so she told him not do so again.
And … also complained that he tried tot teach her and did some comment that if he has to do more lesson then she should kiss her.
Maybe it could be his joke but the audience felt this comment very humiliated and sexual insult by unknown guy.
After game, another 4 ladies who played after … joined short meeting at the terrace of club house,
Then they told that that guy are very suspicious ant try to find incomplete group (less than 4 members) if Asian ladies to join.
And had done similar actions and the impression from the players were very bad.
Maybe all of my descriptions can not be 100% true of it may include some exaggeration.
However repeated complaint about same guy can be worth being investigated.
I kindly ask you to check this and give some warning message to this guy not to have same complaint in the future.
De inhoud van deze e-mails is niet van dien aard dat BurgGolf zonder nader onderzoek de daarin vervatte beschuldigingen als bewijs van gedrag als voornoemd heeft kunnen aanmerken. Zij had minstgenomen de betrokken klagers in een gesprek om nadere toelichting moeten vragen. De voorzieningenrechter acht in dit verband van belang dat de e-mails qua beschrijving van de gebeurtenissen nogal van elkaar verschillen. Zo klaagt de ene mail over gedragingen ten aanzien van beide dames terwijl de andere mail suggereert dat [eiser] slechts met een van de twee contact heeft gehad. Ook lijkt één van de twee klagers niet erg zeker van haar zaak, waar zij schrijft:
Maybe all of my descriptionscan not be 100% true or may include some exaggeratrion.(onderstreping voorzieningenrechter).
However repeated complaint about same guy can be worth being investigated.