(…) I hope we can both satisfy with our decision. I appreciate a lot your (…) hosting me in this country. (…) I appreciate you as a friend and brother. You give me an opportunity to change my life (…). Lately I have made a decision to change our deal. (…) The way we live in [woonplaats] dose not suit my personal needs in life. (…) Indirect trying to have more out of our bonding as friends make me very confused and it was not at any point our deal! As much as I respect your feelings I would like you to respect mine. Your feelings dose not correspond to mine. The reason I send this letter to make everything clear and respectful friendship between us without confusion….as a friend I hope you understand (…) I trust you a lot as a friend and I am really need my peace. In can’t live your life I want to live mine. I would really like to have a fresh start in life without struggling or fighting for my personal freedom or feelings. I can only do this with good base in this country. What I need for this base is:
(…)
- I appreciate to know you in my life. I don’t want to lose you as a good friend.
- To achieve all my wishes in life I need my distance. This dose not mean we will not see each other, but it also dose not mean I need to share everything with you. (…) I don’t use to share my life with anyone I don’t want to. (…)
- I find personal contact, like touching and hugging very unpleasant. Please understand I don’t share same feelings.
- Please try to live the life you have. I will be there for you when it’s hard. But I can’t sacrifice my life to please your needs.
- (…) I am not leaving our contact but just want to make it simply clear for both of us and our personal needs.
- (…) I need my independence and secure life that I want to build up by myself. For sure with your help but not together!
- After refusing your proposal about paper I realized it was unfair decision from my side. (…) I would like to ask you to reconsider the proposal about 30 of January. If you are still ok with that we can do in in a clear and transparent way for both of us so that no one get hurt or feel getting used.
- My staying at your home bring a lot of unnecessary fights and contradictions in my mind. For that reason and my own personal grow I would like to live alone my independent life. (…) For sure I will need your help from time to time and I will ask for that. If I may I will keep The key from your home safe with me as sign of our friendship.
(…)
- Your agreement (decision/answer) should be based on our friendship not your personal feelings or way of living.
(…) If we want to continue our contact as friends i need to have this direct way to express myself. I have a lot of appreciation for everything you do for me. You give me a new start! (…)
Your best friend,
[gedaagde]